Tuesday, January 28, 2014

NYNS: Letting Go

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The new year is a great time to reflect on oneself and really see where you stand in life. Today we are getting a little philosophical (and a little new age-y, bear with me) in this last installment of NYNS and I'm providing some tips of how to let go of negative experiences and possibly be a little happier in life. Clearly there's been a theme of adopting minimalism and just "feel good" types of things so I thought it was appropriate to culminate this month of advice giving by just laying everything out on the table and leaving it there

  • My first piece of advice is that if you hold onto a mental road map of your life, chuck that thing out the window. While in theory it's good to have a clear picture of where you're headed in life, marking your happiness by milestones is not only unrealistic but a horrible way to live. Every time you miss the deadline for one of those milestones it will weigh heavily and be a huge blow to your self esteem. This is not a healthy approach on life. I firmly believe that life is measure through number of ice cream cones eaten and wild bear sightings, rather than certificates or raises. In other words, it's those little moments that truly matter rather than those huge milestones (marriage, job promotions, mortgage payments) that really count to shape you into the person you are.
  • I'll be the first to admit that I don't have the most even temper and often speak or do things that later I regret. My best tip for this is to write it down. There's nothing more satisfying than sitting down with a pen and paper and just letting it all out. Doesn't matter if it's a nicely composed letter, someone's name that you proceed to stab holes through, or even just a page of curse words, this is a great way to unleash all the aggression without doing something you will regret later.
  • In conjunction with the last tip where you write out your woes, my next suggestion is to then rip up said paper and let it burn in a fire. The physical act of destroying the problem is very satisfying and is a great way to release all that pent up negative energy.
  • Now that we are done being destructive, another great thing to start doing is really reinforcing all the good in your life. Start a memory jar for the year. Every time something good or special happens to you, it can even be as simple as waking up feeling really good one day, jot it down on a scrap of paper, date it and stick it into a designated jar. This is something wonderful to open at the end of the year (I suggest New Year's Eve) and just reflect on all the good things that happened to you.
  • Finally my last tip has to be counting your blessings. When everything seems to be going wrong in my life, I force myself to sit down and come up with ten things that are going right in my life. Just the process of reminding myself of even the little things is an uplifting experience.
What are some of your tips for overcoming negativity in your life?

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